Ever felt misunderstood, even when your intentions were pure? In the latest episode of Beautiful Me, Ariane and Kenny explore exactly that: how communication can bring us closer or create unexpected gaps. Set outdoors around a familiar round table, their conversation is as warm and relatable as the memories and stories they share.
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The Power of Presence
Kenny begins by recalling how this familiar setting reminds him of childhood, where elders would gather, not just to chat, but to truly connect. Ariane highlights that presence is key to effective communication. As she explains, “Being present literally means it’s not just showing up physically…but really listening…doing a lot of active listening…words can only communicate about 10% of what is actually being conveyed.”
Active listening, they agree, requires full attention: body, mind, and heart. Kenny points out a modern challenge: “Most often…they are always on their phone…Where’s the friends?” reminding us that distraction can silently widen the gap between people.
Miscommunication in Everyday Life
The hosts share personal stories that reveal how easy miscommunication is. Ariane recalls a well-intentioned work conversation that backfired: “A well-intended care and concern didn’t come out quite right because…she actually felt offended.” Kenny adds a funny anecdote from Hong Kong, where a phrase meant to convey “I’ll get back to you” was taken literally, causing mild chaos in meetings. These examples highlight how intentions don’t always match perceptions.
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Presence, Openness, and Letting Go
One key takeaway from their conversation is the importance of being fully present. Beyond words, body language, tone, and active listening carry most of our messages. The hosts also explore the role of expectations in communication, emphasizing how letting go of assumptions and staying open can prevent unnecessary friction.
Learning to Communicate Better
Even simple scenarios like a “no dress code” wedding invitation can lead to hilarious and awkward misunderstandings. Yet Kenny and Ariane show that reflection, empathy, and asking clarifying questions can bridge the gaps. Ariane shares her focus for the year: “Be slow to speak. Be fast to listen.” Kenny echoes the sentiment: “When I let go of expectation and just being present…have fun…that’s the thing I would continue to do even more this year.”
Tune in to Episode 3 of Beautiful Me to hear Ariane and Kenny’s full conversation and discover practical insights to navigate your own communication challenges at work, with family, and in everyday life.